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-- When and how did you first get into domestic discipline?
-- What was your most memorable spanking or other disciplinary moment?
-- What do you and your significant other get out of your domestic discipline relationship?
This is a moderated and curated resource for real couples in real relationships, not a blackboard or use-net for Femdom and spanko fantasies. Such comments will not be posted or are subject to deletion. Because we had some problems with them in the past, I took the Guestbook down for awhile. The comments in these archived posts are from that previous iteration of this resource.
-- When and how did you first get into domestic discipline?
-- What was your most memorable spanking or other disciplinary moment?
-- What do you and your significant other get out of your domestic discipline relationship?
This is a moderated and curated resource for real couples in real relationships, not a blackboard or use-net for Femdom and spanko fantasies. Such comments will not be posted or are subject to deletion. Because we had some problems with them in the past, I took the Guestbook down for awhile. The comments in these archived posts are from that previous iteration of this resource.
Alan M
ReplyDeleteQuestion 1: When and how did you first get into domestic discipline?
My first experience was with a previously vanilla girlfriend. She had never spanked an adult but believed completely in spanking and discipline as a healthy tool. I had always secretly wanted to experience being spanked (I had spanked quite a few women) and her enthusiasm for spanking and discipline let me open up to her about myself. After I did she let me know that I was someone who had some self-destructive tendencies and she thought she could correct them. About a month later she showed up at my apartment with a paddle made for her by a friend and that started it. She was a natural disciplinarian and I completely responded to that. Within six months or so I was being regularly spanked for things like disobedience, irresponsibility and disrespect. It all happened very naturally
Question 2: What was your most memorable spanking moment?
Probably with that same girlfriend when she spanked me in earshot of her best friend. We were all visiting and talking casually when she suddenly stood me up and grabbed my ear ( which she usually did when she was leading me to a spanking) I had opened a third beer which I usually was not allowed but her girlfriend was there and I didn’t think she would notice. I was wrong. She dragged me upstairs to the hallway where she kept a brush and made a big commotion about taking my pants down and bringing the chair out. All of this her girlfriend had to hear but couldn’t see. After the spanking she made me do corner time while she and her girlfriend talked about it and then left. I have been spanked since by my wife in front of her sister but this first time was the most memorable and embarrassing even though I didn’t have to face her friend again for several months
Question 3: Most severe punishment you have given or received?
That had to be after my wife caught me masturbating when I was supposed to be doing corner time. She was livid. Brush, strap and cane I got all three plus loss of privileges for a month. It was one of the few times my wife spanked me before she got her anger under control and that scared me as much as the spanking did. To this day I have never touched myself while doing corner time and I never will.
Question 4: What does giving/receiving domestic discipline do for you?
This is hard to put in words but knowing I have boundaries and there are consequences for violating them make me feel safe and loved. I know I won’t go very far off the rails before my wife will correct me. I also have no or little guilt and know if I do disobey I will be punished and forgiven. I also get a lot from knowing my wife won’t back down or be talked out of a punishment once she has decided. That certainty is very important making it all work. I also like knowing my wife now finds gratification in spanking me when I deserve it. She has said many times she will not spank without a reason but once that reason is there she does enjoy exercising her authority.
Question 1: I got married at 20 and we lived with my mother-in-law. My wife had a heated argument one afternoon and I was quite rude. My wife upset decided to go for a drive. My mother-law having heard the argument came into our bedroom with a wooden hairbrush in her hand. She told that I was a spoilt brat in need of a damn good spanking. I said you can't be serious. She said that while I lived under her roof all my brattish behaviour would be dealt with a bare bottom spanking. I hadn't been spanked since I was about 10, so I reluctantly agreed to accept the punishment noting that there was a part of me that was slightly excited with the thought over going over her knee. She sat on the edge of the bed and I took my jeans done my knees and then she pulled across her knee. She then pulled down my underpants. She sure could wield a hairbrush. She tanned my backside for a good 15 minutes. When she had finished she gave me a hug and told me that the spanking was long overdue and that she had been contemplating spanking me for several months.
ReplyDeleteQuestion 2: I think the most memorable spanking was when my partner and I were travelling on a country road on the north coast and I admitted that I had witheld some information from her. She said that the witholding was the same as lying and what happens if I catch you telling me lies. I sheepishly said I get spanked. That's right you get spanked. Pull the car over now. Here I said ? Yes here, this spanking needs to happen right now. I pulled the car into a spot next to the bush. My partner told me to get out of the car and come around to her side of the car. She opened the door and ordered me to drop my jeans and underpants and get across her lap. She really let me have it for a good 10 minutes or more. Then she said this requires more than a hand spanking. She told me to lock the car and follow her into the bush. Rubbing my backside I followed her and watched her collecting thin twig like branches. Finally when she had about 20 of these she took off her hairband and tied it around one end of the branches. She turned to me and said you are about to receive your first birching. She then found a rock to sit on and then ordered me to drop the jeans and underpants and get over her knee. She then proceeded to birch my bottom till it was bright red.
Question 3: The most severe spanking occurred with my beautiful new partner who administers regular maitainence spankings and the occasional punishment spanking when I deserve it.
We had just arrived at our holiday cottage. She told me that when I had finished unpacking the car I should come into the bedroom. When I entered the bedroom there laid on the bed was a hairbrush, a paddle, a strap and a cane. My partner was dressed in beautiful black lingerie. She summoned me over her knee and she administered a very sound hand spanking. When she finished I was ordered to stand in the corner. She then ordered me back over her knee for a hairbrush spanking and more corner time. She then told me to assume the position. She then proceeded to apply 50 strokes of the paddle whilst lecturing me that I had been behaving like a spoilt brat for several months. Next I was ordered to lay on the bed face down for a strapping and then a caning. I recieved 50 stokes of the strap and after another tea break for my lady I received 20 stokes of the cane. It was the longest and hardest punishment I had ever received and my entire bottom cheeks were a bright crisom.
Question 4: I receive discipline about 80% of the time and administer only about 20%. I have a capacity to tolerate very hard spankings whilst the majority of my partner's spankings are playful foreplay. Occasionaly she has requested a punishment spanking and they usually consist of sound bare bottom hand spanking of about 5 minutes duration. Our d/d relationship seems to make all areas of our relationship better. We both admit that we get excited with anticipation when we know that some spanking is going to occur.
great post... i am a spanked husband. have been for a few years. started as erotic spankings , part of sex and moved on to discipline. each one is hard and getting harder! she is learning fast. what started out as a simple hand OTK sessions now is a fully blown 30 minutes disciplinary session.... corner time, hand spanking OTK, paddle, hairbrush, more corner time and finally the dreaded belt. i plead, i say sorry, i revert to childhood and call her "Mummy", i promise to be good but she doesn't stop till she is satisfied and i am really crying.
ReplyDelete1. How it started
ReplyDeleteWhen I was 16, I was dating a girl that was 17. I liked her because she was friendly, hot looking, and interested in sex. My parents liked her because she was an honor role student and they thought she was a good influence on me. One day, she was at the house when my mom brought in the mail which included an unfavorable progress report from school. I had missed several assignments. As my mom scolded me, my girlfriend joined in. She was more pissed off at me than my mom, probably because she knew how much time I had spent playing video games with my friends when I had told my mom I was studying. As my girlfriend tore in, my mom backed off and watched. Finally, my girlfriend said to my mom "I think he needs a good spanking." I hadn't been spanked since before puberty. My mom looked a little shocked. After a little pause, she said, "Maybe I should take the dog for a walk now and let you sort this out." After she left, my girlfriend said "does she mean I should do it?" Soon my pants were down and I was across her lap. That one didn't hurt very much, but over the next year she got much better at it. We broke up when she went to college. I didn't find another girlfriend interested in spanking me until I met my wife.
I notice a pattern in the responses above that a spectator seems to make a spanking more memorable. I agree. My wife generally waits for a private time to deliver a spanking even if that means waiting a few hours. Only a couple of her friends know that she spanks me. However, a few years ago, a friend that had moved to Australia came to visit and stayed with us for two weeks. My wife made it clear before the visit that if I misbehaved, that would be much too long to postpone a spanking, so she wouldn't worry about whether her friend could hear. Well, I was supposed to pick them up from shopping at a particular time and I lost track of time when the ballgame I was watching went into extra innings. As we drove home, I got an earful about my transgression and there was little doubt that the paddle would be coming out when we got home. As we walked into the house, she told me to get the paddle and bring it to the kitchen. When I returned she told me to pull down my pants and lean over the table. I protested about her friends presence and asked if we could take care of this in the bedroom. She firmly answered "no way" and proceeded to give her friend a demonstration of how she ensures that I am usually an attentive husband. Oddly, I felt like I needed to hold back my tears as long as I could to impress her friend with how much of a paddling I could take. My wife also wanted to impress her friend. I think she was impressed.
ReplyDeleteAs I mentioned in another post, I believe it all started with an otk hairbrushing I received from an attractive aunt when I was 11. I often relived this experience during puberty and through my teens as it developed into a fascination that, while not an obsession, was always lurking around in the back of my mind. This was reinforced with an otk paddling I received from an older woman (30) that I was dating when I was 19. But then I was in a very plain vanilla marriage for many years with only an occasional spanking fantasy. Then came the Net with the stories on the old Usenet and later the web sites - that really enhanced my interest. Finally, by chance, my wife and I had some wine one night and started talking about fantasies that we had - which in itself was unusual for us. When I mentioned being spanked, she thought that sounded like fun - very uncharacteristic of her! Right then she went and got a ping pong paddle and gave me a mild paddling on my bare behind, then another the next morning - definitely harder but still nowhere near a real DWC spanking. After that, she said that she thought that perhaps we should bring this into our relationship - especially if she could spank me when I was being an arrogant smart ass. I showed her the DWC site - which had become my favorite - and a couple of others. She spent a couple of hours researching, then later that afternoon tore my rear end up with a brand new wooden hairbrush. She never looked back. That was about ten years ago - and many, many spankings ago
ReplyDeleteQuestion 2: What was your most memorable spanking moment?
ReplyDeleteThere have been many - here's five that are perhaps most memorable because they were landmark spankings (so to speak.)
1. The spanking by my aunt when I was 11. My Mom was not much of spanker so I had never received a real spanking before. My aunt put me over her knee, pulled my shorts down around my knees, pulled my underwear into my crack, and gave me about 50 good whacks with her hairbrush. I was begging and crying in no time but she kept on going - she knew just how to get a young boy in line. I did not find it exciting at the time but I relived it many times over in years to come.
2. The spanking by the older lady I was dating when I was 19 - my only adult spanking till my wife spanked me 20 years later. She was really a bottom but gave me a demonstration so I would know what she wanted. It was a bare bottom otk paddling with a wooden paddle she had - it was a moderate paddling. It stung and she had me squirming but definitely lighter than a true DWC spanking.
3. The first real spanking by my wife - the afternoon after she read though the DWC material. After she read the material, we went out for lunch and then to the beauty supply store to buy her a real wooden hair brush. I was not expecting it to be used that day, but as soon as we got home, she put my bare bottom over her lap for my first real DWC quality paddling. I think there were probably a hundred nonstop whacks after a couple of dozen warmups whacks in the sets of 4 that Aunt Kay suggests. My bottom was on fire - very sore and very red, and I was sobbing when she finished with me. It was everything I had fantasized about and more. The reality was far different than the fantasy!
4. The first time my wife paddled me with her sister in the next room - able to hear it all. I had been "silently switched" several times with her and other people in the house, but this was the first time anyone else could hear me being paddled. My wife had already confirmed her suspicions that she did indeed spank me when I needed it, so she wasn't completely taken aback, but I don't think she really knew how long and hard they were until then.
5. The first time my sister-in-law saw me being spanked. She had already overheard a couple of spankings and this time my wife had not even closed our bedroom door before putting me over her lap. Just after the warmup was over, she came to the doorway and watched the main spanking.
- Al
Question 3: Most severe punishment you have given or received?
ReplyDeleteAgain there have been a few, but I think the first really severe spanking came when I got really rude and ugly over the phone with my wife while she was out shopping with her sister. My sister-in-law could even hear me yelling over my wife's cell phone. When I got home later, my wife was still hanging out with her sister. But as soon as I walked through the door she told me to ride down to the office with her so she could get some papers(a private office we had access to that was only used during regular business hours - only 2 blocks away, it was the woodshed when others were at the house). I knew I was in trouble, but didn't know how much. It was the longest and hardest spanking to date - and was clearly a real punishment spanking - a couple of hundred whacks that left some real bruises for the first time. It was literally a few days before I was comfortable sitting. And I sure got a lesson in how to speak to my wife! This was also one of the main clues that led my sister-in-law to believe that my wife spanked me. (It was just a week before that she had overheard my wife threaten to spank me - and my sister-in-law had said something like - "what? An ass whipping?". My wife just laughed and replied "Best way to keep a husband in line" - but kind of played it off as a joke without really denying it either.) So when she abruptly left with me as soon as I got home following my bad behavior on the phone, and then when we came back with me visibly shaken, and with blood shot eyes, I suspect she put it together. She actually admitted later after my wife confirmed her suspicions that she had noticed my wife toss her hairbrush in her purse when I had called to say I was on the way home, and she had noticed that I was sitting very carefully after we got back.
- Al
Question 1: When and how did you first get into domestic discipline?
ReplyDeleteMy wife’s friend from her work discussed her dd marriage and how it actually saved her marriage. My wife was very interested and did some of her own research and gradually incorporated it into our marriage.
Question 2: What was your most memorable spanking moment?
Probably the very first time my wife put me over her knees. I thought it was kinda funny – boy was I wrong! It hurt big time and I was sore for days.
Question 3: Most severe punishment you have given or received?
Without a doubt, the worst was when she used the paddle for the first time. She was furious when she found I had been viewing porn and I denied it and masturbating. She had the ‘evidence’ and I got the worst spanking ever. It seemed to last forever and my ass was blistered!
Question 4: What does giving/receiving domestic discipline do for you?
It has made me a much more loving and attentive husband. I know the rules and the consequences of breaking those rules. My wife is in charge and I do all I can to please her and we have never been happier!
Early in our marriage I made the mistake of being rude and dismissive of my wife's mother. She warned me that I would be sorry but I ignored her. Then one day when we were alone in her house my mother in law confronted me. She told me I needed to learn some respect. The tone of her voice and her stern lecture had a strange affect. She told me she was going to spank me. I could have resisted but I didn't and she was remarkably strong and adept with the short leather strap she used on my legs and butt. I was left really sore and much less disrespectful . That was 40 years ago and my wife picked up where her mom left off.
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When / how did you begin domestic discipline? I started to spank my husband erotically in college when he asked me to. After we married it became mostly for punishment as I realized his need for me to control his behavior and for him to pay for his lapses. I grew up in a home with two younger brothers who were regularly strapped so I didn’t see my husband’s situation very different from them. What did surprise me was that I began to enjoy what had started out as just a burden to make him feel that I controlled him. It was never a sexual thing for me but more satisfaction that he obeyed me and I was making him a better man than he would be without my discipline. Our marriage is much happier than most of our friends and I believe spanking and the communication it brings mainly responsible for our better marriage.
ReplyDeleteMost memorable or severe spanking given)? That was probably the first time I actually punished him with a spanking after we were married. There wasn’t anything sexy about it and he received a lot of pain but didn’t disobey me or try to stop it in any way. It made me feel very close to him but at the same time stricter –there were a lot of emotions with that one. Of course there were other memorable ones and it’s hard to pick just one. One was when I made him acknowledge to my girlfriend and her husband that I spanked him regularly for his behavior and it helped him. There was actually no spanking that night but I will never forget the look on his face when he told them. My girlfriend already knew and probably her husband too but my husband didn’t know that so it was all embarrassment for him.
What does giving domestic discipline do for you? Sorry to disappoint all the guys out there but it doesn’t turn me on and with some exceptions he gets no sex for some time after I have punished him. I love my husband and admire him but turning him into a whimpering naughty boy over my lap does nothing for my libido. But what spanking does do is empower me to control him and our household and at the same time know he loves me enough to undergo sometimes painful punishments, I am not a fool and I know he could overpower me but instead he accepts what I give him and long term that makes me trust him more and love him more.
Future Forum topics? I would like to hear much more of the woman’s perspective on domestic discipline. Men seem to dominate these groups and what they say is valuable but we are missing much of the whole other side. I would like to hear more about how women deal with the family side of it (if your mother is your best friend do you tell her or not ... I did finally) How do other women deal with repeat behavior problems and frankly how hard do you punish him. I spank very hard because it gets results and sometimes I wonder if I should. Or what other women do about that and so many other things that come up with domestic discipline.
Anything else to share? I guess I have truly come to think more men need physical discipline than anyone guesses. I am not a feminist and I don’t believe in female superiority. But I think there are gender roles and one for many wives is to guide and monitor their husband’s behavior. Many wives try to do this with nagging and complaining and I believe spanking is a lot healthier and more effective. I find myself more comfortable in this role the longer I do it and maybe women have lost the memory that’s what we have always done.
I was 15, and visiting my favorite aunt and her new husband for a summer. I had been there for about a week and was reading one sunday afternoon when i was called to dinner. I wanted to finish the chapter so I told my aunt I would be there in a minute. five minutes later she called me again and when I didnt respond my uncle charged into the living room, lifted me off the couch and had me over his knee and bare assed. He then ordered my aunt to bring his paddle from the garage. I was fussing and while he waited he used his large ruff hands on my bottom.
ReplyDeleteWhen Aunt Liz returned he took the paddle and in front of my aunt paddled my bottom until i was crying. When he stopped ordered me to ask Aunt Liz to forgive me and then ordered me to sit to go into dinner. As I began to pull up my briefs and jeans he told me to leave them around my ankles.
I had to hobble in to dinner, totally humiliated and
eat as if nothing were different.
The chair was a woven straw and I recall how much it made my ass itch and ache. After dinner I had to sit at the table bare bottomed until my bedtime. Later that night Aunt Liz came to my room and rubbed lotion on my bruised bottom.
great stories..............
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DeleteWe have been practicing male chastity/flr/dd lifestyle for almost 2 years now. Mi Amor keeps me in my cage 24/7. I have to serve her and she disciplines me on a regular basis. At first she was somewhay hesitant, but now knows no change comes without severe paddlings. About 8 months ago the sessions became real. She has a selection of 6 paddles and can really do some damage. She keeps track of offenses and we go over them as I get on our spanking horse for my session. She has added a ball gag as my yelps have become loud. We do have our own blog. Please enjoy.
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